I regularly have a self care day, I especially like a spa day. When I sit in the spa, thinking how far I’ve come from the skinny shy kid from a one parent family and for not feeling guilty for spending a day on me. That I finally believe in myself and I am worthy of the nice things in life.
On one particular day, the sun is shining, I’m relaxing in the hydropool speaking to a lady who said she needs to lose weight and not drink so much. We put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect. I start talking to her about a radio presenter who passed away that weekend and she starts talking about her son who listened to him every morning. Such a shock that he died relatively young, in the scheme of things. Her son joins us and says how sad he is that he can’t listen to him anymore.
I tell them that I had also been to a funeral the week before for a friend’s husband that passed away only aged 53.
We start chatting about living life to the fullest, to be happy, that if you lose too much weight you go wrinkly. To try to be healthy, but to enjoy life, as it’s so short. Have the cake, raise a glass, laugh with your loved ones.
I leave them to ponder and relax in the sunshine.
I go back to the book I regularly read called ‘Coffee Self-Talk’ by Kristen Helmstetter. It’s my go to book when I go to the spa and those days when I need that reminder to pick myself up, if I’m having a down day. It’s a well thumbed book given to me by a good friend.
It opened my eyes on how I used to talk to myself and that now I stop that talk as best as I can. In fact, I promote positive self-talk to my clients. This is a reminder to follow my own suggestion and for it to become part of my day.
Until you are aware of it, it’s really easy to talk to yourself badly or put yourself down. What do you say to yourself?
I used to say I wasn’t good enough, I needed to prove that I was worthy of the good job, the nice car, the nice holidays, my husband and son, my home.
Now I think, I’ve worked hard to get where I am, it’s not been easy. It hasn’t been handed to me on a plate. Of course, I’ve had good people around me, but they may not have invested their time in me unless I showed that I was capable, willing to learn and work hard. I am me. That I was always capable even if I am imperfect (as many of us are – wouldn’t life be boring if we were all perfect?).
When I’m having a wobble, I say to myself, you’ve come through worse. You can do anything you put your mind to. You have grit and determination. You don’t give up, in fact, you dig your heels in when anyone thinks you may fail.
This gives me strength and courage. We all need that every now and again.
I share my stories of how I’ve got to where I am now. To share with those who want to succeed and maybe don’t think they can, that they need to speak positive self-talk to themselves. They have to believe in themselves, as I do. I’m not afraid to say that I have been broken at times, but I’ve worked hard on myself to be better, to take care of me, that I’m worth it and more.
Do you do the same? If you do, what do you say to yourself?
If you don’t think you are worth it, what can you say to yourself every day to make you be the best person you can be? You’re in there, you just need to let yourself out to live your best life on as many days as you can. The more you do this, the more it will become a permanent part of your life.
Life is short. Make it count, be happy, laugh, love and live as best a life as you can.
If you’d like some help on positive Self Talk, invest in the book by Kristen Helmstetter. Invest in yourself with coaching to bring out your best self. Self-belief can be life changing.
It’ll be worth it!
If you want to work on this to improve yourself, feel free to contact me for a free discovery call. Your challenge is to live your best life and I can support you in coaching you to walk the talk. Interested? Book your free slot here Skyline Coaching Bookings
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